I was unaware of the problem until it was too late.
After flunking out of the University of Colorado twice in Chemical Engineerung,
I went on to Colorado State where I didn’t get into Vet school due to poor chemistry grades.
As children began to arrive in my family, I sought a new major that would count my science background, physical science, with emphasis on physics and math, and chemistry.
When I checked at the placement office I found the only job for that major was the FBI!
So I went into education and became a great chemistry teacher.
What had made me a poor chemistry student (slow thinking) made me a great chemistry teacher,
Which leads me back to reception.
When teaching I could take all the time I wanted for chemistry instruction; no need to quickly recall chemistry names and reactions and products.
This type of slow instruction was aided by writing on the (green) blackboard.
Writing on the blackboard provided time…
Time for feedback and consideration based on perceived reception by the students of what I was trying to teach them.
As I monitored their receptivity to my teaching, I adjusted my teaching strategies accordingly.
Occasionally I got it wrong, as when my sixth period chem class at Jefferson High in Portland, OR began throwing spit wads at the blackboard when my back was turned.
I stormed at them only to find that they just were trying to make me smile.
Sixth period became my favorite period after that.
Just so in conversation or public speaking I monitor and adjust (as my friend LuAnn taught me).
I’m thinking while you’re talking.
According to my listening coach (see Contribution) this is a no-no.
Don’t think, just listen.
This is hard for me, but necessary, I guess, to hear you, Yes?
Do you find it difficult to talk to someone on the phone? Where you can’t see their reaction? Or texting.?
I think people who text (my children) don’t want to know how you are receiving their message.
I think we are passive receptors to messages all day (MSNBC and CNN).
I go back to my previous statement:
That conversation requires at least two participants.
If we are all to listen it’s like traffic at the stoplight that comes to a standstill as two people wait to make a left turn, neither trusting the other, waiting for a clear and signal that they truly mean to turn left, sometimes requiring two or more left turners to pass before you feel you can process.
See what I mean? Are you getting this? Am I saying it right?
We’ll see how you do on the pop quiz.
– Small town boy